Believe it or not, its actually true…

Believe it or not, it’s actually true. Cuckolding is love. You’re probably skeptical about that statement I know…after all, the messaging out there about this highly fetishized and misunderstood relationship dynamic is overtly simplified into humiliation, degradation, and disrespect towards the cuck, and that a cuck = weak and submissive. And with all of that being broadcasted everywhere it’s no wonder so many cucks feel debilitating shame and often hate themselves because of their desires. There are consequences to that kind of misinformation.

So I’m here to say, stop it. Enough. Cuckolding is a loving one-sided open relationship where he is monogamous to her and she is given the gift of sexual exploration with others and in turn she loves to involve him in some way. And just like all relationships, non-monogamous dynamics, and sexual preferences, there is a vast spectrum of cuckolding practices and dynamics. But for some reason, we only hear about one extreme end of that spectrum and unfortunately it has become the face of modern cuckolding.

So let’s get this first part clear: men who have cuckolding fantasies are not weak. They are not passive either. They are definitely not something to be pitied. Cucks are strong, intellectual, creative, and selfless partners who love to explore the complex thoughts and feelings around their partner’s sexual experiences with another person. And they are pretty much everywhere. Over 60% of men in the U.S. have cuckolding fantasies so look around you and challenge your own stereotypes about what you think a cuckold should look like. 

And this stereotype that a cuck must be submissive is unfortunate because how many people, when they think of a man being submissive, think of a BDSM scene where he’s crawling on the floor naked and being led around with a collar and leash? Seriously, that is what people picture in their minds right? They think of a husband who is emasculated, disrespected by his mean-spirited wife and who has no say in the decisions being made in the relationship.

I think most cuckolding couples are actually just regular couples who have a robust sex life where she is encouraged to explore her sexuality in whatever way she chooses and with the full support of her partner. I think the “humiliation” factor for most couples involves teasing in a loving way – like her casually mentioning to her husband that she has a date coming up with a really hot lover and she sees how turned on that makes her husband. It’s a fun little game they play together. She’s not mean. She’s not cruel. It’s fun between them both.


This might be a provocative statement but I think modern loving cuckolding relationships where he puts her first, fosters sexual empowerment for women and that concept is seen as threatening. Perhaps modern cuckolding is less about power exchange and more about their enjoyment in witnessing their woman experience pleasure; all while celebrating her for her sexual desires. Perhaps it’s the opposite of slut-shaming….and that dynamic is seen as her having power over him and therefore him being below her? Is putting her first in a relationship a kind of threat to insecure masculinity?

It’s no wonder we have so many men who subscribe to the “stag” label instead of the dreaded “cuck” label, and it’s no wonder we have so many women who prefer the “hotwife” or “vixen” labels because they don’t want to be “mean” to their husband. I don’t blame them! The cuck label has been dragged through shit puddles and hijacked by the mainstream “ridiculed-cuckold” porn scripts, manipulated into a money-making extreme degradation tactic by the huge findom arena, and plunked into an ultra submissive kink category as if it’s just roleplay in a BDSM scene.

It’s also no wonder so many cucks loathe themselves about their fantasies and it makes sense that they feel such crushing shame and fear because of it. That shame impacts their mental health, their relationships, and their self esteem. And that’s the part that really pisses me off. Because cucks are loved, respected, and cherished for their immense deep love and loyalty. The fact that they are suffering and ashamed of themselves is so fucked up – you are the most selfless and amazing partner a woman could have! Be proud of who you are!  

To the swingers and non-monogamy enthusiasts: I want you to challenge your preconceived ideas about cuckolding. To the mainstream porn producers: I want you to realize that you are entirely missing 95% of what really turns us on. To the loud-as-fuck findom hustlers: I want you to know that it’s not okay to hijack the cuck label as an insult anymore; I am going to drown out your negative and damaging messaging by being even louder. 

Cuckolds are LOVED.

Cuckolds are RESPECTED. 

Cuckolds are CHERISHED.

Cuckolding is LOVE.

About Author /

Hi I'm Venus. Host and producer of The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast - a place to learn all things cuckolding for the curious, the passionate, and the sexually empowered woman who wants it all. You can find me on under profile "VenusCuckoldress" or my personal site at


  • Brian
    2 years ago Reply

    My wife and I have been in a very loving cuckold relationship for over 9 years now, almost since the beginning. Its what works for us. We are closer than either of us have ever been and I am proud of her and proud to be her cuckold. It isn’t for everyone, but it IS what’s right for us, and works for us.

  • LTF
    2 years ago Reply


  • @Hubs2Hotwife @Hotwife_Sarah
    2 years ago Reply

    Love and respect, Venus. We can’t thank you enough for the validation you extend to our “community”. This lifestyle is arguably one of the most misunderstood. Even to us, it seemed counterintuitive in the beginning. Yet its made us both happier and more in love than we’ve been in years (and we’ve been together for 45!). Someone already said it better … you ARE a rockstar!). We love you!

  • Dennis loukeris
    2 years ago Reply

    I am cuck really since 16 ,it stems from my father who treated my mother like she was the last woman on earth he always told me women must be repected protected never to be abused.We are immigrants of greek descent in the 60’s it was a toxic masculine world my uncles his friends made fun of my father that my mother was to free bossy whatever he didn’t care ,instead of resenting him I was proud of him so you see my need to serve my wife stems from there ,my parents did not know about flr’sor anything of a kind it was natural for them my mother never cuckholed him no such thought them maybe today my father would have been cuckhold by my mammi.Even to her last days my mother died of Alzheimer’s he took care of her at home refused to let her go to a institution my sister and everyone else were critical they insisted that she goes to a home ,I never critical I understood his need to serve till her last breath.

  • Linda
    2 years ago Reply

    Venus says it perfectly well. Porn has made a caricature out of cuckolding. The reality is that it takes on many more diverse forms that are more subtle and loving.

    I am in such a relationship where my husband is locked up in a chastity belt for 4 day long weekends when my lover is visiting. We live together respectfully during these weekends but my hubby sleeps in the guest room and does all the chores. But when we are hanging out, we act civil. I tease hubby and he loves it. He pushes his boundaries but he knows his limits (e.g., no touching me sexually during this time).

    The beauty of it is that everyone wins, and if you asked any one of the 3 of us who’s getting the most pleasure out of it, I think each of us would claim it. Lover is getting intense unlimited hot sex with another man’s wife, I’m enjoying heavenly hard cock, and husband is enjoying the teasing, denial, and submission that he is innately wired for.

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