Candaulism is a sexual practice or fantasy in which a man exposes his female partner, or images of her, to other people for their voyeuristic pleasure.
Candaulism, or candaulesism, is a paraphilic sexual practice or fantasy in which one person exposes their partner, or images of their partner, to other people for their voyeuristic pleasure. Candaulism is also associated with voyeurism and exhibitionism.
But what is it called when a man seeks someone else to take control of exposing or showing off his wife’s pictures so he’s no longer in control of them, resulting in that someone else now being able to show and expose these pictures however THEY want?
In Candaulism-By-Proxy, there are at least two parties involved. Party A is the owner of the pictures. He derives some kind of sexual pleasure from knowing others enjoy pictures of his wife. Party A also has a part of him that experiences a sexual-emotional rush at the thought or experience of not being in control of this practice. He therefore actively seeks out another (Party B) who he can share his wife’s pictures with who will then “take over” and be “in control” of what they do with those pictures.
Until this very moment, there was no official term or terms to describe this practice. This article is therefore an attempt at suggesting an official term for the above-mentioned practice, which I’ll refer to from now on as Candaulism-By-Proxy. Let’s take a deeper look into what Candaulism-By-Proxy entails.
This emotional-sexual rush Party A gets is related to the rush a cuckold gets at no longer having any say or control over what his wife will or will not do (to use an analogy, candaulism is to candaulism-by-proxy as being a stag/hotwife husband is to being a cuckold). Indeed, some who engage in candaulism-by-proxy actually ask/beseech/beg Party B not to post/show/expose his wife any more, while secretly behind the scenes giving Party B more pictures to do just that with.
Party A enjoys the experience of not being able to do anything about it. He craves the feeling of no longer being in control, of being forced to endure whatever consequences may befall him. He gets his true thrill in being in the passenger seat with someone else at the wheel. For these types of men, sometimes it’s nice to just…let…go.