Why Cuckolding Is Not the Same As an Affair
Cuckolding is NOT the same as having an affair, despite most people thinking it is. The crucial difference is one is done with the full knowledge, consent, and even approval of the husband, while the other is not.
Cuckolding and Affairs
As you may already know, an “affair” is where one partner sneaks around behind the other’s back and becomes involved with another partner. And while marriages can and do survive an affair, there’s no doubt they are almost always destructive.
But cuckolding is very different.
Cuckolding, as is it commonly known in the ‘community’ or being a ‘hotwife’, is where a woman takes a lover with the express permission and approval, and usually with the urging of her husband.
Now, at first glance it seems to most people that this is just as destructive as having an affair is, but for men and women who live the lifestyle, it isn’t. Here’s are three reasons why:
- Both parties are fully aware of what’s going on and — most important — both consent to it. This is the biggest difference of all, because part of the destructive nature of affairs is the feeling of betrayal because they almost always involve lying and deception.
- An affair is usually indicative of some deeper problem in the marriage, and is an expression of the desire to escape from the situation into the arms of another.
- Following on from #2, because this is something they share — something they do with one another and not to one another, it’s a sign the marriage is strong, secure and loving.
The truth is, couples who are into the cuckolding lifestyle find it draws them together rather than forces them apart and usually means more physical and emotional intimacy — more sex and loving, in other words — in their lives than before. And this is especially true when the man is included in the cuckolding, either by watching, listening, hearing all about it (a must for most men!), or even joining in.
No doubt about it… many, many men have the fantasy of being cuckolded and the sticking point is getting their wives to agree (but when they do… it’s HOT). And if you can follow some simple guidelines, then the cuckolding lifestyle might be right for you.
But, be careful about your sources of information. It IS a potential minefield, and it pays to tread carefully. My wife, Josselyn, and I have been in the lifestyle for the past 7 years and apart from a few hiccoughs it’s been a lot of fun.
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